I used to be able to sleep like a champ. At the end of grad school I started to lose my ability to sleep no matter what. Several years later in Houston it got much worse. It comes and goes these days. Sometimes I sleep fine, sometimes I wake up in the middle of the night no matter what. Sometimes I can fall asleep right away, other times I lay there for hours. I haven't found the perfect solution yet but I have found a few things that help: this pillow and this clock.
February 14th, 2019...I wasn't sure until Tuesday what I wanted this post to look like. It feels like NYE was just the other night. I can't believe it's already the middle of February. 2019 is just sailing by, my goodness. I've had a lot of emotions behind the holidays so far for 2019, and a bit of bitterness. I'm working through both of those things, God willing. Despite my circumstance or what season of life I'm in, I want this space of mine on the internet to be a place that empowers, a space that builds you up. I want you to know that you're not alone and that you're amazing and wonderful in every way (even on the days when you feel less than perfect). I also want this blog to be helpful. Helpful to you and anyone else you choose to share this with. Sometimes I share shoes, other times I share the things I'm trying to keep in mind. Things I've learned and am trying not to forget.
These are the things I've decided to focus on for Valentine's this years:
1. Remove toxic thinking
Gosh I am as guilty as can be with this one...anyone else?? The amount of time (it's short let me tell ya) it takes for me to go down a rabbit hole of "what if" is insane! I should really be a screen writer of some sort. The plot twists that come to mind daily are next level. I'm certain that no one else thinks of the crazy things I think about or worries about the things I worry about, six months ahead of time. I want everything to be perfect. I want to be perfect, and never make one single mistake. Impossible I know and trying to live like that can cause negative or anxious thoughts. When those thoughts come to mind I have to shake it off instead of dwelling on them. At the end of the day have you ever asked yourself "were my thoughts today more positive or negative?" Did I spend most of my day worried or was I at peace? It's impossible to live a positive life with nothing but negative thoughts. Both you and I could do a better job of getting rid of our toxic way of thinking. Don't dwell.
2. Replace lies with the truth
What is your lie? The one you tell yourself when you're being dramatic? What's that deep dark situation that you hope with all of your heart won't ever happen? What area in your life do you feel like you aren't meeting other people's expectations? Get rid of that lie and remind yourself that God is always with you and he will never leave. Your worth has already been defined and it has nothing to do with where you live, the car you drive, or how much money you have in the bank. You are loved by a KING!
3. Rejoice in all circumstances
I'm trying to remember the last time I was annoyed. Starbucks was out of the little green stopper things the other morning so my coffee spilled multiple times on the way to work. It wasn't hot by the time I sat down at my desk. I was annoyed until I realized how thankful I should be. I get to go to a fancy office every day. I have my very own car that gets me to to the coffee shop and then to that desk where I'm able to spend the day with an amazing group of people. At the beginning of the week I was down about this holiday. It took a few days for me to remember that something incredible is coming my way. This time of my life is tricky but great. I don't have to be in the same season as my friends in order to have reasons to rejoice. We must choose to see the goodness in God, others, and ourself.
Earlier today I was thinking about this chapter of life and how hard it can be. It's kind of like being in a row boat all by yourself, for over a decade. Sure I can go any direction I want, without asking for permission or talking it over with anyone else. I'm in charge and because of that there is an amazing sense of accomplishment every time this boat makes it from point A to point B. It's because of me. I got it there without any help, but good golly would be it nice to be able to take a break for a minute or two. To set down the paddle and rest without having to worry about drifting off course. Sometimes I think it would be nice to have someone else in this boat, to help. Preferably someone strong and easy on the eyes. Then other days I think it would just weigh me down (that's when I know I'm being dramatic).
Whatever your row boat situation is, I hope you're happy. I hope you know how much you're loved. I hope you know how incredible you are, and I hope you have people in your life to remind you of those things more than just one day in the middle of February. Happy Valentine's my friends.
Three years ago, on February 8th of 2016, I loaded my car with as many clothes as I could fit and left Houston. I left Houston to head north to a city I didn't know much about. I had no place to live. I still had a few months left on my lease in Houston. I didn't know many people in Dallas and certainly had no friends to look forward to seeing. I had a job lined up and prayed that the rest would fall into place. I would make it work. I had to. I lived with family friends for the first six weeks. Three different families that helped me out when they had no obligation to do so. Two of the three families I had never met before. I introduced myself the day I showed up on the front porch, with a car full of clothes. Looking back I am both thankful and proud. Thankful for my Mom who arranged everything for me. Thankful for those families who took me in, and proud of myself. The quiet girl who took a leap of faith in order to chase a dream.
Overall, things have not gone according to plan. Have you ever heard that saying? It goes something like "if you want to make God laugh, tell him your plans for the future." The train carrying the original plan of a life in Dallas and what I thought it would look like derailed so long ago, it's hard to remember what I originally imagined my life would be like in Dallas. The crazy thing is that it all worked out. The twists and turns that could have taken me down didn't. I refused. The Lord carried me through it all and I eventually arrived on the other side of the map at places where I still wonder "am I really here? How lucky am I?"
The point of today's blog post is to celebrate the journey. My journey, and your journey as well. I hope that you're forever brave and aren't afraid to take a huge risk. It might not play out the way you wanted it to, but boy does the Lord do an amazing job of showing you that his plans are always (and will ALWAYS be) best.
See that look on Ike’s face? That’s how I feel about Lasik.
Here’s what happened...
I reached out to a cousin of mine who lives in Austin and asked her for the name of the lasik center she used. She gave me the name and told me that her experience was great. I called the office and scheduled an appointment around Christmas time. I couldn't wear contacts for three weeks leading up to the consultation. During the three weeks your eyes return to their regular shape. This rule wasn't that big of a deal because I already wear glasses every single day. I only wear contacts if I'm driving for several hours at a time (so I can wear sunglasses) or if I go to any type of social event. I can't wear contacts to work because I don't blink enough, and I don't blink fully. Compound those things with dry eyes and you're sure to be uncomfortable after an hour of staring at two large computer monitors.
My Dad went to both the consultation and the eye exam. I needed someone to drive me home after they dilated my eyes. I also didn't want to do any of this stuff alone. They did several tests at the lasik center in order to gather information about my eyes. After the tests were taken, and the charts were looked over, they told me that I am not a candidate for lasik. The top layer of my eye is not thick enough. They showed me my charts and explained that I am two standard deviations outside of what they would like to see. They then said an alternative procedure might be possible, advanced surface ablation, but they would need to speak to the surgeon to see if he would be comfortable performing the procedure (given my charts with all the red all over it). A few hours later when we were on the way home from the eye doctor's office, I got a call saying that they would allow me to proceed with the alternative procedure but given my work schedule I wouldn't be able to have surgery during the holidays. This alternative procedure has a much longer recovery time. It would have to wait until after busy season if I decided to go through with it.
I was brave going into that consultation. A little nervous, but willing to put my fear aside for the sake of the outcome. After I was told that it was highly unlikely I would be able to have any type of surgery to fix my vision, my enthusiasm went way down. I had a feeling that this was not meant to be. I try and look for signs, and this just wasn't a good one. I appreciate their honesty but I would not feel comfortable or confident with the advanced surface ablation, given the eyes the good Lord gave me.
I might try again somewhere down the line, and see what they say. For the time being, I’m going to stick with my glasses . At least I'm not a professional basketball player. That would certainly complicate things.
My lease is up in June therefore I’m currently looking for a new place to live. I think two years is the longest I’ve ever stayed in one place. I like change. I like the freedom and I like adventure. My Mom is going to look at a few places with me. I value her opinion and she’ll think of things that I might miss. Over the years my dream house/the place I would someday like to call home has changed. Lately I’ve been craving space, room to move around, wide open space. Im also in search of light. Apartments have little to no light. Every single one bedroom that I’ve lived in has had only one window. It’s a bit despressing but it’s fine. I know someday I’ll be able to live in a place that has windows in the living room AND windows in the bedroom. That will be the day! I’ll be living large when that day comes around. A bigger closet would be nice too, but let’s not get greedy.
Where you choose to live has an impact on so many things. Goodness gracious. there are so many options. House, townhouse, condo. high rise. The list goes on forever. How can a person possibly decide?
I’ve felt a shift in the direction I’m heading. What I want, where I want to be. Did that ever happen to you? Or did you always want to live in one particular place and that’s where you ended up planting your roots? I would love to know your story. How you picked a place to call home. You can message me on Facebook, Instagram, or email me at:
I’m always open for advice and can’t wait to hear your journey : )
Thanks for reading and happy Super Bowl Sunday (go Patriots!!)
I’ve been to listening to podcasts for the last week or so and I think I’m officially hooked. I should have been listening to these things all along. Somewhere down the line I assumed that I disliked them because I read an audio book once and hateddd it! I felt like they were going too slow and I was wasting my time.
I love to learn and have always loved to learn. I think that’s why I enjoy these podcasts. They’re educational. They serve a purpose. I’m trying to be a better version of myself this year. Of course that’s easier said than done but I have learned a few tools to help me do so.
Im going to share one of them with you today. Here’s what you must do:
Always ask yourself “WHY?”
Life is rough, and tough, and people can be cruel. Situations can be less than ideal. It’s easy to become confused and wander away from the person you’re meant to be, the life you were meant to live. I’m really trying to understand everything at a deeper level, that includes myself. Why I think the way I do, why certain things make me nervous, why I worry, why I require perfection.
Lately I’ve been asking myself “why?” I’m putting this new tool of mine to use. Here’s an example.
A little over two years ago I created this blog based on a feeling. I’ve been trying to dig deeper so I can understand the why, which will help me set my sights on the direction I want to go. I spend a great deal of time working on this fashion blog. Taking pictures, planning content, creating blog posts, and talking to many of you on a daily basis. I love it.
Originally I wanted my own fashion blog because I thought I would be good at it. Why? Well, since I was little, people have always complimented me on my outfits. I’m often asked where I bought a particular piece of clothing. I love to share all the details (the name of the store, how it fits, whether it’s on sale or not). Why do I want to share? I want to share that information because I want you to be the most confident you can possibly be. No matter your size, no matter your job. Whether you’re told all the time that you’re beautiful or if you’re dying for a compliment. I want you to wake up, get dressed and walk out the door feeling like you can accomplish anything. Why does confidence matter? I believe that a person’s confidence, or lack there of, determines many of the decisions they make on a daily basis. Your confidence also alters your attitude. Why do daily decisions matter? They matter because they all add up to create the current season that you’re in. Your current situation. The life you’re living now.
Am I confident every hour of every day? Of course not. I don’t think that’s possible. There are times when I don’t feel that great about myself. There are moments of weakness and self doubt. One thing that can change my attitude is an outfit. A killer dress, or a nice pair of shoes. A blazer that feels like a shield. How you present yourself to the world each day matters. It’s my mission, that this fashion blog will inspire and guide you so you can put your best foot forward, feeling confident and capable. That’s why this blog exists. That’s why I love spending my time and energy creating SometimeSaturday. That’s why I do what I do.
I’m wearing a Medium. It's currently on sale for $70. Original price was $155. Club Monaco sweaters will last you several seasons. You get what you pay for. The sweater with a lighter color linked below is top ranked on the Anthropologie website. It too has an interesting neckline. They both are what I like to call perfect for dinner pieces, where your outfit only shows from the waist up.
My first pair of green pants were purchased in Houston, a pair of chinos from Anthropologie. I had gained a little bit of weight so my jeans and my dress slacks weren't comfortable anymore. I kept those green chinos for 4 years. Not bad. Heaven only knows how many times I wore them. They match with more outfits than you would think. You can wear them with white shoes, black shoes, tan. If you don't already own a pair of olive green pants, I would suggest adding at least one pair. The color can be worn year round and you'll get so much use out of them. The pair I have now were found here in Dallas, on the sale rack at Neiman Marcus. I plan on keeping them for a long time.
Most of my friends own either black or brown boots. Gray is always a great alternative.
Do you ever wish for all of the things that you don't have? Maybe it's just me, but for some reason I often find myself focusing on the things that I don't have. I go through all sorts of phases. I wish I was tan. I wish I was tall. I wish my hair was long. Silly things if you think about it. Some can be changed, some can't. Some take a lot of work/time/money to change or obtain. It's my hope to always be open and honest with you. I do feel like somewhat of a loser when I talk about this stuff, but it's necessary. The good and the bad. Both sides. The other night I was home alone for New Years Eve. All day I was alone. It took me a while before I decided to share with you my NYE plans, or lack thereof on Insta stories. Watching the TSwift reputation tour on Netflix and eating red velvet cookies isn't what most do on NYE, but it's the way the cards fell for me, and I'm ok with it. Was it an ideal type of night? No. Is it the end of the world? Of course not.
I think your experience can be swayed by your perspective and your attitude. The only way to get out of a funk is to focus on the good, scratch that, the great. Also never forget that T Swift is not tan and she’s killing it. I might not have some of the things that other women have, but it's ok. I have other things going for me. We can't all be great at the same things. We can't all be exactly the same. Try and focus on what makes you amazing and then take that confidence and go after your dreams! I’m going to try and not make a big deal about New Years. Yes it’s a bit scary, sharing these things with you, but I’ll be fine. I’ve spent plenty of nights alone. I like to think that TSwift has too, and if she had a blog, she would write about it to let you know that you’re not alone.
Happy New Year! Can you believe that 2019 is here? Holy cow. This year is gonna be a big one. First off, I'm turning 30 in a few months. People make it sound so bad, but it's not. I say bring it on! I'm looking forward to this year. As always, I look forward to sharing my life, my experiences, and my heart with you for as long as you'll let me! Thank you for following along. Thank you for visiting this little page of mine. Thank you for liking my photos, sending me emails and messages, for telling your friends and family about this blog of mine. It means more to me than you know.
Sometime last fall I decided that it was time for a logo. I had just reached the 2 year anniversary of SometimeSaturday. I think I've proved to not only myself, but to those who know me best that this is something I'm serious about. I really do love sharing sales and pretty pieces with you week to week. In order to get the look of the logo right, I reached out to the talented Katherine Jezek. I'm so glad I did! She was a joy to work with and I couldn't be happier with how the logo turned out. Katherine listened to everything I had to say, and created the most lovely design. She works with clients from many different industries and can help with any of your graphic design, branding, or invitation needs. Her work is second to none, see for yourself:
How ironic is it that the first post in 2019 is about a cooking appliance? Lord help me!
Don't worry, this fashion blog will not be taking a turn into the kitchen, but I do want to share one of the things I got from Santa: a new Instant Pot.
Today is the last day that it's on sale. I also received a cookbook from Santa. I found it at both Amazon and Target. Some people have a strong preference on which retailer they prefer, so I thought I would link them both. The cookbook is also on sale!
Let me know if you have any easy recipes. I'm so excited to try this puppy out! My Brother and Sister in Law love theirs!