Have you heard this compliment before: "oh my gosh, you look SO thin!!"
Maybe someone said it to you, maybe you've seen it as a comment on social media, or maybe you over heard this line at a get together. Women crave this compliment. I think a lot of times women will throw compliments out there just to be nice. Compliments about shoes or purses, a cute dress. Those kind of compliments can be exaggerated. The "you look so thin" line is not one you can use unless you 100% mean it. Whether or not a bag is cute is based on preference, personal style, and taste. What you weigh on a particular day is a fact. A nonnegotiable number.
We all have a slightly different definition for the word "thin." Is it a certain weight? A certain size? A goal? Chains that keep you from enjoying your life? So many women struggle with weight. It's insane. Women of all sizes, that's what makes it so crazy. Two women, the same age, one weighs twice as much as the other yet both hate the way they look. Why is it such a problem with women? I wish I could tell you. I wish I could fix it. The only thing I can do is share with you that it's something I've struggled with since I was 18. Striving to be the perfect size and a certain weight. It's exhausting and impacts so many areas of life. Have you ever missed out on something because you didn't feel pretty enough to go? You didn't attend an event or accept an invitation because you had nothing to wear, or maybe what you wanted to wear didn't fit at that time. I have. Multiple times. I'll own it.
I don't think it's reasonable to ask you to feel like a beauty queen 365 days a year. Emotions, deadlines, they all have to be dealt with. I challenge you (and I challenge myself) to find and focus on goals more meaningful than being thin. If you don't like how you look and it's causing you to feel bad, focus on exercise. Learn something new or take a new class. Focus on learning how to cook new recipes that are somewhat healthier. You can take good care of yourself without obsessing about your size. You can work hard towards weight loss, you can work hard toward being the strongest version of yourself without putting yourself down every day.
YOU'RE FREAKING GORGEOUS! You wake up every day and do all the things. Take care of this person, go here, go there, check in on that friend, call that family member you miss, handle this, make that deadline, impress your boss, provide, comfort, problem solve. It's hard. It's so hard, but you're doing it seven days a week. Give yourself some credit, come on! You're doing a great job. In the midst of all of that, don't forget to take care of yourself, but please at least try to do it in a healthy way. You're capable no matter your size. You're worthy no matter your weight. You are a warrior. A warrior wouldn’t compliment another person for looking thin, because there are other qualities that are actually meaningful in life. Qualities and achievements that deserve a compliment. A warrior wouldn’t jump for joy if called thin because there are other characteristics (honesty, intelligence, bravery) that are actually worth striving toward. Those are the things one should want to be recognized for.